A lot of the responses here may tacitly assume that Submitter D or any other woman in her position “should” give all these geeks and nerds a fair or even shake. But should she?
No they haven’t. Why is this straw man encouraged?
It makes no sense for Submitter D to put more effort into this than is required to get her needs met.
And it makes sense for person-submitter-D-doesn’t-require-for-sexual-services to put in the effort required to get his needs met. For example, by following the conventional courtship strategy of asking for phone numbers at a certain point in the process. It makes no sense for him to comply with demands to not ask for phone numbers because that would make it more personally convenient for her at the expense of himself. (Especially since resistance to that kind of social pressure is one of the key elements of attraction. Being sensitive to disapproval and vulnerable to shaming is a terrible mating strategy!)
No they haven’t. Why is this straw man encouraged?
And it makes sense for person-submitter-D-doesn’t-require-for-sexual-services to put in the effort required to get his needs met. For example, by following the conventional courtship strategy of asking for phone numbers at a certain point in the process. It makes no sense for him to comply with demands to not ask for phone numbers because that would make it more personally convenient for her at the expense of himself. (Especially since resistance to that kind of social pressure is one of the key elements of attraction. Being sensitive to disapproval and vulnerable to shaming is a terrible mating strategy!)