the friendzone doesn’t really have a hard boundary between it and the lover-zone.
The boundary is not that hard, but it’s definitely there. IIRC, trying to cross that boundary is called “remixing” in PUA-speak, and it’s considered to be quite difficult. Part of the problem is that you most likely ended up in the friend-zone for a reason, so a “remix” often involves radically changing your outward identity in order to appeal to your ‘target’ in a lover-like, not friend-like sense.
Asides from that, PUA does tend to cultivate a healthy skepticism about “remixing”, because trying to remix is taken to be a sign of attachment which one should be clearly aware of, and either accept or discard. Basically, you might as well start out afresh with someone who is not going to have that unwanted association of you as a mere “friend”.
The boundary is not that hard, but it’s definitely there. IIRC, trying to cross that boundary is called “remixing” in PUA-speak, and it’s considered to be quite difficult. Part of the problem is that you most likely ended up in the friend-zone for a reason, so a “remix” often involves radically changing your outward identity in order to appeal to your ‘target’ in a lover-like, not friend-like sense.
Asides from that, PUA does tend to cultivate a healthy skepticism about “remixing”, because trying to remix is taken to be a sign of attachment which one should be clearly aware of, and either accept or discard. Basically, you might as well start out afresh with someone who is not going to have that unwanted association of you as a mere “friend”.