If that’s how you actually say it, I’d be a little concerned about how you were coming across.
Replace Viliam_Bur with a pretty girl. Are you still concerned about how she’s coming across? What if it’s two people of the same gender? What if one of them is secretly attracted to the other but pretends to be a friend, yet the other knows about said supposedly secret attraction?
I think you were assuming a certain context and tone and approach that have been more closely associated with that phrasing in your personal experience, perhaps without realizing it.
Good point. I checked by visualising a selection of people in my head asking this, male and female, with various characteristics. I had the same reaction to about equal numbers of men and women. Usually some something along the lines of “erm, can we add each other on facebook first?”
...Then again, I’m probably just particularly not-keen on giving people my phone number, and as such was reading the situation exclusively in terms of “which way of asking makes the certainty of me saying “no” less awkward?”
I think you were assuming a certain context and tone and approach that have been more closely associated with that phrasing in your personal experience, perhaps without realizing it.
Yes, but I guess the OP also had that kind of situation in mind.
Replace Viliam_Bur with a pretty girl. Are you still concerned about how she’s coming across? What if it’s two people of the same gender? What if one of them is secretly attracted to the other but pretends to be a friend, yet the other knows about said supposedly secret attraction?
I think you were assuming a certain context and tone and approach that have been more closely associated with that phrasing in your personal experience, perhaps without realizing it.
Good point. I checked by visualising a selection of people in my head asking this, male and female, with various characteristics. I had the same reaction to about equal numbers of men and women. Usually some something along the lines of “erm, can we add each other on facebook first?”
...Then again, I’m probably just particularly not-keen on giving people my phone number, and as such was reading the situation exclusively in terms of “which way of asking makes the certainty of me saying “no” less awkward?”
Yes, but I guess the OP also had that kind of situation in mind.