I am attracted to women, which makes them seem far more interesting than they actually are.
If you are attracted to them, they are interesting to you, you’re just ruling out their type of interesting as counting.
Women are just less interesting on average.
Than who? Men? I’ve found that they’re interesting in different ways.
So, can someone remind me why I should go out of my way to adjust myself to be women-compatible? I’ve already given up on 95% of people, why not another 50% (actually more like 10%) of the remainder if it saves me trouble and improves my life?
You don’t have to be “women-compatible”, anymore than you have to be “human-compatible”. The number of women you might like to have in your life is a tiny tiny fraction of all available women. And these reports from women that are distressing you aren’t all women either.
I am constantly worrying about overstepping boundaries, interpreting subtle cues, etc, even when she’s clearly responsive and wants it.
Do you think that improves the experience for her? For you? No? Then knock it off.
Sorry for the horrible sexist rant.
I’d say your problem is that you think that was a sexist rant. You’re frustrated with the way you perceive society is supposed to work. I suggest you look at how it actually works, and how it can work better for you.
Than who? Men? I’ve found that they’re interesting in different ways.
(In this comment, by “interesting” I specifically mean ‘interesting to me’, and my “men” and “women” I specifically mean ‘men around my age’ and ‘women around my age’.)
FWIW, I think there’s larger variance among men than among women: most women fall in the ‘somewhat interesting’ bin, whereas most men fall either in the ‘hardly interesting at all’ bin or in the ‘very interesting’ bin. I think the median woman is more interesting than the median man, but that might be me overcompensating for sampling bias.
If you are attracted to them, they are interesting to you, you’re just ruling out their type of interesting as counting.
Than who? Men? I’ve found that they’re interesting in different ways.
You don’t have to be “women-compatible”, anymore than you have to be “human-compatible”. The number of women you might like to have in your life is a tiny tiny fraction of all available women. And these reports from women that are distressing you aren’t all women either.
Do you think that improves the experience for her? For you? No? Then knock it off.
I’d say your problem is that you think that was a sexist rant. You’re frustrated with the way you perceive society is supposed to work. I suggest you look at how it actually works, and how it can work better for you.
(In this comment, by “interesting” I specifically mean ‘interesting to me’, and my “men” and “women” I specifically mean ‘men around my age’ and ‘women around my age’.)
FWIW, I think there’s larger variance among men than among women: most women fall in the ‘somewhat interesting’ bin, whereas most men fall either in the ‘hardly interesting at all’ bin or in the ‘very interesting’ bin. I think the median woman is more interesting than the median man, but that might be me overcompensating for sampling bias.