Perhaps the way in which you helped this person would have been valued more strongly in one of the monthly bragging threads? Getting the upvotes you deserve after helping a friend make a tough choice would have merely been an issue of wording, if you had posted there.
Also, many of us who read Hanson will have developed the intuition that gratitude is about giving others status, while bragging is about giving yourself status.
Perhaps the way in which you helped this person would have been valued more strongly in one of the monthly bragging threads? Getting the upvotes you deserve after helping a friend make a tough choice would have merely been an issue of wording, if you had posted there.
Also, many of us who read Hanson will have developed the intuition that gratitude is about giving others status, while bragging is about giving yourself status.
Maybe you’re right… Oh well, lesson learned. Thanks for the feedback!