NVC in practice conflates two very different things:
(1) Report observations, inferences, and value judgments separately.
(2) Only feelings and perspectives exist and can be the object of conversation, not facts.
The first is right, the second is wrong. The ideology suffers from the same ambiguity—in principle “owning your experience” is a necessary Rationality practice; in practice, Circling can sometimes push people towards privileging some experiences over others, ones that are more feelingsy, and away from being able to own their experience as beings with incomplete information about an actual reality.
I don’t get 2 in my understanding of nvc. That seems like a bad thing generally.
One thing that is there is a separation of facts and observations. A fact like, “the sky is green”, isn’t the content of nvc. It’s the concrete observation like, “yesterday I saw the sky was green” that can form part of nvc
NVC in practice conflates two very different things:
(1) Report observations, inferences, and value judgments separately.
(2) Only feelings and perspectives exist and can be the object of conversation, not facts.
The first is right, the second is wrong. The ideology suffers from the same ambiguity—in principle “owning your experience” is a necessary Rationality practice; in practice, Circling can sometimes push people towards privileging some experiences over others, ones that are more feelingsy, and away from being able to own their experience as beings with incomplete information about an actual reality.
I don’t get 2 in my understanding of nvc. That seems like a bad thing generally.
One thing that is there is a separation of facts and observations. A fact like, “the sky is green”, isn’t the content of nvc. It’s the concrete observation like, “yesterday I saw the sky was green” that can form part of nvc
In general Baileys are more implicit, Mottes are more explicit.