1) Likelihood of success by asking directly: Of course it’s higher when you ask in an effective way. I would recommend the framework of nonviolent communication.
2) Costs of asking the landlord before asking directly: Carol: Dear landlord Dave, my neighbor is to loud.
Dave: Dear Alice, Carol told me that you are to loud. Alice: Dear Dave, I’m fully within the house rules and anyway Carol didn’t even ask me to turn down the volume.
Dave: Dear Carol, is it true that you didn’t ask Alice directly to turn down the volume? Carol: Yes, but....
That’s a situation into which Carol doesn’t want to navigate herself.
For me, and many others, it depends a lot on whether they come to you with a request for a favor, or with a complaint.
A complaint will likely be met with an assertion of rights, not accommodation.
There are two issues:
1) Likelihood of success by asking directly:
Of course it’s higher when you ask in an effective way. I would recommend the framework of nonviolent communication.
2) Costs of asking the landlord before asking directly:
Carol: Dear landlord Dave, my neighbor is to loud.
Dave: Dear Alice, Carol told me that you are to loud.
Alice: Dear Dave, I’m fully within the house rules and anyway Carol didn’t even ask me to turn down the volume.
Dave: Dear Carol, is it true that you didn’t ask Alice directly to turn down the volume?
Carol: Yes, but....
That’s a situation into which Carol doesn’t want to navigate herself.