Speaking as somebody who could easily be on the other side of that equation, except for a very rigorous moral system, including a rule to stay the hell away from people who scream “Victim!” into my brain, I can tell you exactly how you got into that situation.
She became whatever you needed her to be, in order for you to be the target she wanted you to be. (I can manipulate anybody into doing anything. I just have to become the person they would do that thing for—and my self is flexible in ways most people couldn’t imagine.)
In particular, she became somebody who needed help, because you would try to help her.
It’s important to realize—she doesn’t need help. She never needed help. The person you want to help doesn’t exist, and never did. That person was a mask that the person who threatened you wore to make you vulnerable.
Allow yourself to mourn the person you thought she was. But do not imagine that that person was ever her.
Speaking as somebody who could easily be on the other side of that equation, except for a very rigorous moral system, including a rule to stay the hell away from people who scream “Victim!” into my brain, I can tell you exactly how you got into that situation.
I’ve been thinking about your post for some time. It’s sounds compelling and I can’t quite put my finger on why. I want to rule out that it’s just cause I like the things you post and your style. Can you elaborate on your victim rule please?
Perhaps you don’t want to be the target an accusation of victimisation by someone who misattributes that status to people?
When I say they scream “Victim!”, it’s in something the way a rabbit’s movements yell in a wolf’s brain. It’s hard to describe. It draws out predatory elements.
Speaking as somebody who could easily be on the other side of that equation, except for a very rigorous moral system, including a rule to stay the hell away from people who scream “Victim!” into my brain, I can tell you exactly how you got into that situation.
She became whatever you needed her to be, in order for you to be the target she wanted you to be. (I can manipulate anybody into doing anything. I just have to become the person they would do that thing for—and my self is flexible in ways most people couldn’t imagine.)
In particular, she became somebody who needed help, because you would try to help her.
It’s important to realize—she doesn’t need help. She never needed help. The person you want to help doesn’t exist, and never did. That person was a mask that the person who threatened you wore to make you vulnerable.
Allow yourself to mourn the person you thought she was. But do not imagine that that person was ever her.
I’ve been thinking about your post for some time. It’s sounds compelling and I can’t quite put my finger on why. I want to rule out that it’s just cause I like the things you post and your style. Can you elaborate on your victim rule please?
Perhaps you don’t want to be the target an accusation of victimisation by someone who misattributes that status to people?
When I say they scream “Victim!”, it’s in something the way a rabbit’s movements yell in a wolf’s brain. It’s hard to describe. It draws out predatory elements.
Thank you for the insight.
To all those who’ve read some HPMoR, I find it interesting that that’s basically how Quirrel describes his and Harry’s… differences from most people.
Are you a psychopath?
Are you a municipal file clerk?
I define myself by what I do, rather than what I am capable of doing—both good or ill—so no.