Until a few years ago I wasn’t consciously aware of how much I did this. Meditation helped with that, and now I am. I give the true answer, IDK, more often, and ironically almost no one believes me b/c no one else answers that way. Also if I do let myself come up with explanations on the spot, they’re worse now, because I can’t fake the feeling of believing them. I also use more qualifiers in speech, which no one even notices or pays attention to.
My wife is the exception, because by nature and practice she’s more honest, perceptive, and metarational than I am.
Until a few years ago I wasn’t consciously aware of how much I did this. Meditation helped with that, and now I am. I give the true answer, IDK, more often, and ironically almost no one believes me b/c no one else answers that way. Also if I do let myself come up with explanations on the spot, they’re worse now, because I can’t fake the feeling of believing them. I also use more qualifiers in speech, which no one even notices or pays attention to.
My wife is the exception, because by nature and practice she’s more honest, perceptive, and metarational than I am.