Thanks, I liked this and it updated me. I. do still think there is a somewhat strong “socially acceptable” element here, but I also think I was underestimating the importance of these lifestyle differences.
I suppose the “socially acceptable” element is a part of why it would feel weird for me to try joining a group of people in their 20s, on the occasions that I meet such group, in contexts where if it was a group of people in their 40s instead, I could simply sit nearby, listen to their debate for a while, and then maybe join at a convenient moment, or hope to be invited to the debate by one of them. Doing this with a group of people a generation younger than me would feel kinda creepy (which is just a different way of saying socially unacceptable). But such situations are rare—in my case, the general social shyness, and the fact that I don’t have hobbies where I could meet many people and interact with them, have a stronger impact. The most likely place for me to meet and talk to younger people are LW/ACX meetups.
For me, one place I’ve noticed it is in my racquetball league. There is a wide mix of ages, but I’ve noticed that the 30somethings tend to gravitate and the 50+ aged people tend to gravitate.
Thanks, I liked this and it updated me. I. do still think there is a somewhat strong “socially acceptable” element here, but I also think I was underestimating the importance of these lifestyle differences.
I suppose the “socially acceptable” element is a part of why it would feel weird for me to try joining a group of people in their 20s, on the occasions that I meet such group, in contexts where if it was a group of people in their 40s instead, I could simply sit nearby, listen to their debate for a while, and then maybe join at a convenient moment, or hope to be invited to the debate by one of them. Doing this with a group of people a generation younger than me would feel kinda creepy (which is just a different way of saying socially unacceptable). But such situations are rare—in my case, the general social shyness, and the fact that I don’t have hobbies where I could meet many people and interact with them, have a stronger impact. The most likely place for me to meet and talk to younger people are LW/ACX meetups.
For me, one place I’ve noticed it is in my racquetball league. There is a wide mix of ages, but I’ve noticed that the 30somethings tend to gravitate and the 50+ aged people tend to gravitate.