Improve your self-esteem and optimism. This is tricky. First, too much self-esteem can lead to harmful narcissism.
A friend of mine uses a great trick here. She has very high self-esteem (though maybe not higher than the esteem that I hold her in) but doesn’t come across narcissistic at all because she’s also very warm and empathetic with a lot of care and curiosity for the people around her. These multiply and are therefore particularly uplifting for those around her: I (for example) not only feel interesting but I feel so interesting that I’m interesting to a person who could find an incredibly interesting person in any random mirror, which, I surmise, must be a very high bar.
So maybe it makes senses to train extraversion, empathy, social skills, and self-esteem all at the same time.
A friend of mine uses a great trick here. She has very high self-esteem (though maybe not higher than the esteem that I hold her in) but doesn’t come across narcissistic at all because she’s also very warm and empathetic with a lot of care and curiosity for the people around her. These multiply and are therefore particularly uplifting for those around her: I (for example) not only feel interesting but I feel so interesting that I’m interesting to a person who could find an incredibly interesting person in any random mirror, which, I surmise, must be a very high bar.
So maybe it makes senses to train extraversion, empathy, social skills, and self-esteem all at the same time.