To clarify: This statement “we feel most heard” is from the subjective experience of the sender of the message. Feeling like the other side has in fact received the message can be separate from them receiving the message or receiving the right message or confirming that they have received the message.
yes. Said another way, “your confidence that the same message was received as the message that you sent”.
There is also often a psychological need to be heard that will not be fulfilled unless we believe the receiver has the right message. This “feeling” is about resolving that need.
Note1: This draws on NVC.
Note2: I believe there was a concept from NLP that “the message received is the message”. If you are not paying attention to, and confirming the message received you may be getting wrong the process of imparting what you want to impart.
The NLP axiom is slightly different. It’s “The meaning of communication is the response you get.”
In that mental model everything that counts is what happens empirically and there’s no focus on analyzing a message as an abstract entity that somehow is.
“Messages” only exist in the map and not in physical reality. Sometimes it’s a useful abstraction but from NLP perspective (or even from what’s Korzybski’s NL) it’s important to be conscious that it’s an abstraction.
To clarify: This statement “we feel most heard” is from the subjective experience of the sender of the message. Feeling like the other side has in fact received the message can be separate from them receiving the message or receiving the right message or confirming that they have received the message.
Does that make sense?
So a synonym would be “your degree of certainty that the person you spoke to has understood what you said”?
yes. Said another way, “your confidence that the same message was received as the message that you sent”.
There is also often a psychological need to be heard that will not be fulfilled unless we believe the receiver has the right message. This “feeling” is about resolving that need.
Note1: This draws on NVC. Note2: I believe there was a concept from NLP that “the message received is the message”. If you are not paying attention to, and confirming the message received you may be getting wrong the process of imparting what you want to impart.
The NLP axiom is slightly different. It’s “The meaning of communication is the response you get.”
In that mental model everything that counts is what happens empirically and there’s no focus on analyzing a message as an abstract entity that somehow is.
“Messages” only exist in the map and not in physical reality. Sometimes it’s a useful abstraction but from NLP perspective (or even from what’s Korzybski’s NL) it’s important to be conscious that it’s an abstraction.