“OMG so good to be in love!!!!!<3” and “Oh no my heart was broken again how could u do this to me?” I would anticipate that just a little bit more rationality would greatly benefit this person.
It’s not clear to me what assumption you’re making here. Should this person shun relationships? Look for longer-term ones? Something else? The OMG part should remind us that new love is a powerful source of happiness and it’s not available in a long-term relationship. Maybe the OMG and “Oh no” parts add up to more than zero.
In my experience, you don’t have to sacrifice the “OMG” to mitigate the “oh no”. Learning to direct one’s thoughts is a really powerful force in making oneself happy.
I’m always amazed by the number of people who don’t seem to realize that it is possible guide one’s thoughts to control or modify emotions. People seem to think that happiness or unhappiness just happen, and it can’t be controlled. These people are usually much less happy than others.
It’s not clear to me what assumption you’re making here. Should this person shun relationships? Look for longer-term ones? Something else? The OMG part should remind us that new love is a powerful source of happiness and it’s not available in a long-term relationship. Maybe the OMG and “Oh no” parts add up to more than zero.
In my experience, you don’t have to sacrifice the “OMG” to mitigate the “oh no”. Learning to direct one’s thoughts is a really powerful force in making oneself happy.
I’m always amazed by the number of people who don’t seem to realize that it is possible guide one’s thoughts to control or modify emotions. People seem to think that happiness or unhappiness just happen, and it can’t be controlled. These people are usually much less happy than others.