I’ve seen feminists argue that … Women are socially conditioned to defer to men … Men are used to their privilege …
I might agree, provided they’re talking about group averages rather than about all women and all men—this guy doesn’t sound “used to his privilege” to me.
And if they’re talking about group averages, I can’t see their relevance to interactions between individuals. Suppose that blue-eyed people are taller in average than brown-eyed people, and everyone knows this. Suppose there are two people in a room, one with blue eyes and one with brown eyes. They need to take something off a shelf, and the taller one was the easier it would be to do that. It would be preposterous to say “the blue-eyed person should do that, and if she lets the brown-eyed person do that she’s an asshole, as she could much more easily do that herself, given that brown-eyed people are shorter”, if the blue-eyed person happens to be 1.51 m (5′) and the brown-eyed person happens to be 1.87 m (6′2″).
I might agree, provided they’re talking about group averages rather than about all women and all men—this guy doesn’t sound “used to his privilege” to me.
And if they’re talking about group averages, I can’t see their relevance to interactions between individuals. Suppose that blue-eyed people are taller in average than brown-eyed people, and everyone knows this. Suppose there are two people in a room, one with blue eyes and one with brown eyes. They need to take something off a shelf, and the taller one was the easier it would be to do that. It would be preposterous to say “the blue-eyed person should do that, and if she lets the brown-eyed person do that she’s an asshole, as she could much more easily do that herself, given that brown-eyed people are shorter”, if the blue-eyed person happens to be 1.51 m (5′) and the brown-eyed person happens to be 1.87 m (6′2″).