My point is only that, to the same woman, it’s my understanding that many cases of initiating the interaction will look even worse.
Thus, the real problem to find a solution for is “How does one credibly signal need or offer for help while optimizing the chances that it will have a positive result and avoid social failure modes?”, or something close to that, and the solution definitely doesn’t look like “Do your own thing and don’t ask for help or offer help”.
Haha, that’s an awesome way to word it.
But yeah, I was already agreeing with that part.
My point is only that, to the same woman, it’s my understanding that many cases of initiating the interaction will look even worse.
Thus, the real problem to find a solution for is “How does one credibly signal need or offer for help while optimizing the chances that it will have a positive result and avoid social failure modes?”, or something close to that, and the solution definitely doesn’t look like “Do your own thing and don’t ask for help or offer help”.
Fair. I don’t know a great solution to this problem, and “do your own thing” is at least not as bad as various other possibilities.