Moreover, no woman is ever going to be drawn to that, at least that I’ve ever heard. So it doesn’t make sense as a grossly misguided pick-up strategy. Thinking about it and reading the thread, the more I think something along the lines of the Berne Games People Play dynamic is at work. It’s the most charitable reading you can give to the behavior at least; the jerks taking part in this are getting some kind of attention from the woman they’re targeting, even though it’s negative attention. Still extremely hurtful behavior, but I can believe (or at least kid myself into believing) that men can gain insight into the behavior, realize what’s going on, and stop doing it.
One of the more humiliating moments of my adult life was when two guys were making lewd comments to a female friend of mine across a parking lot. I felt absolutely helpless (I’ll be blunt, they were far away and it was obvious they would kick my a__), and I can only imagine what my friend went through. She weathered it, but I’m sure that came at some cost to her psyche that women spend to much time and effort bearing. I can only say it’s in the best interests of men and women if this was all curtailed.
My theory is that there are behaviors which build alliances within one sex to the detriment of individual relationships with the other sex.
I have no strong opinion about whether this contributes to individual reproductive chances, though I can make up some theories about why it might.
People don’t just need to produce babies, they need to support themselves and their children—alliances within one’s own gender can quite useful. It’s also conceivable that intra gender alliances are good tools for limiting the mating opportunities of low-status competitors of one’s own gender.
A female example might be women who spend a lot of time commiserating with each other about how awful men in general and their husbands in particular are. This is not to deny that sometimes men are a problem for women, but putting a strong availability bias on their negative traits can push somewhat bad situations towards worse.
For both sexes, a fair amount of work is put into convincing low status members of one’s own sex to not even try to attract someone. I don’t know how much this is in play in societies where people aren’t as expected to get their own mates.
It’s also conceivable that catcalling is a spandrel—it’s a side effect of homophobia, with men trying to prove to other men (who can be quite dangerous) that they are attracted to women. Doing something low-cost to prove that one is attracted to women is easier than than doing something which might actually attract women.
In feminist circles, its called Street Harassment, there are movements to stop it, and for those males like me who never experienced it personally, there are videos- but what worked best for me was talking to female friends. Street Harassment happens a lot less to women in mixed groups, so I was unaware of the consistency with which it happened to females without male companionship.
Moreover, no woman is ever going to be drawn to that, at least that I’ve ever heard. So it doesn’t make sense as a grossly misguided pick-up strategy. Thinking about it and reading the thread, the more I think something along the lines of the Berne Games People Play dynamic is at work. It’s the most charitable reading you can give to the behavior at least; the jerks taking part in this are getting some kind of attention from the woman they’re targeting, even though it’s negative attention. Still extremely hurtful behavior, but I can believe (or at least kid myself into believing) that men can gain insight into the behavior, realize what’s going on, and stop doing it.
One of the more humiliating moments of my adult life was when two guys were making lewd comments to a female friend of mine across a parking lot. I felt absolutely helpless (I’ll be blunt, they were far away and it was obvious they would kick my a__), and I can only imagine what my friend went through. She weathered it, but I’m sure that came at some cost to her psyche that women spend to much time and effort bearing. I can only say it’s in the best interests of men and women if this was all curtailed.
My theory is that there are behaviors which build alliances within one sex to the detriment of individual relationships with the other sex.
I have no strong opinion about whether this contributes to individual reproductive chances, though I can make up some theories about why it might.
People don’t just need to produce babies, they need to support themselves and their children—alliances within one’s own gender can quite useful. It’s also conceivable that intra gender alliances are good tools for limiting the mating opportunities of low-status competitors of one’s own gender.
A female example might be women who spend a lot of time commiserating with each other about how awful men in general and their husbands in particular are. This is not to deny that sometimes men are a problem for women, but putting a strong availability bias on their negative traits can push somewhat bad situations towards worse.
For both sexes, a fair amount of work is put into convincing low status members of one’s own sex to not even try to attract someone. I don’t know how much this is in play in societies where people aren’t as expected to get their own mates.
It’s also conceivable that catcalling is a spandrel—it’s a side effect of homophobia, with men trying to prove to other men (who can be quite dangerous) that they are attracted to women. Doing something low-cost to prove that one is attracted to women is easier than than doing something which might actually attract women.
You may be on to something, there. The times it happened to me, there always (IIRC) were at least 2 of them.
In feminist circles, its called Street Harassment, there are movements to stop it, and for those males like me who never experienced it personally, there are videos- but what worked best for me was talking to female friends. Street Harassment happens a lot less to women in mixed groups, so I was unaware of the consistency with which it happened to females without male companionship.