That’s fair, but it’s also worth considering whether the circuitry that causes unhappiness every time you put someone up in a hotel is something you can edit in the long run.
For example, if each time “grandma” visits and you put her up in a hotel you make a point of rehearsing in your mind all the additional amenities a hotel can offer “grandma” (maid service, etc.), or if you set aside a “bucket” of money into which the extra mortgage payments you aren’t making gets transferred every month and pay the hotel out of that slush fund (and maybe pay other costs of “grandmas” visit out of it as well, like paying for cabs rather than picking her up at the airport, or paying for fancy dinners for her, or whatever makes you and her happy), or whatever, you might discover after a year or two that you no longer feel that way.
That’s fair, but it’s also worth considering whether the circuitry that causes unhappiness every time you put someone up in a hotel is something you can edit in the long run.
For example, if each time “grandma” visits and you put her up in a hotel you make a point of rehearsing in your mind all the additional amenities a hotel can offer “grandma” (maid service, etc.), or if you set aside a “bucket” of money into which the extra mortgage payments you aren’t making gets transferred every month and pay the hotel out of that slush fund (and maybe pay other costs of “grandmas” visit out of it as well, like paying for cabs rather than picking her up at the airport, or paying for fancy dinners for her, or whatever makes you and her happy), or whatever, you might discover after a year or two that you no longer feel that way.
Or, then again, you might not.