Tell Culture is the phrase I use to talk about open and honest communication, and that is supported by research about it being one of the best modes to use to achieve the goal of having happy relationships. I would disagree on the science of it, I cite quite a bit of studies there :-)
Maybe I’m confused. Guess Culture as I understand it is specifically about not being open and honest about one’s desires and feelings, and instead expecting others to read your mind and guess what you want through subtle hints as opposed to honest and clear statements. Do we have a shared understanding of Guess Culture?
Guess Culture as I understand it is specifically about not being open and honest about one’s desires and feelings
You understand wrong. Ask and Guess Cultures are two different styles of communication. Within both styles it’s possible to be open and honest or to be closed and manipulative.
People from Ask Culture tend to perceive Guess Culture style as opaque and misleading because it’s not their culture and they don’t know how to operate in it. If you don’t understand how it works, of course it doesn’t look “open” to you.
Ask Culture interactions tend to be simpler, but the loss of complexity is not necessarily an advantage. I’ll take flirting over “wanna fuck?” any day.
This is an ignorant assertion. Just because you call something a “style” doesn’t immunize it from criticism. Guess culture is an irrational method of communication driven by a bias to avoiding emotional pain or manipulating ambiguity to manipulate a person. Its impossible to reconcile Guess Culture with the rationality promoted by this site. You can UNDERSTAND it, but its incredibly hypocritical to ADVOCATE for communication based on cognitive bias while maintaining consistency with even the broadest ideology of this site.
As far as Ask Culture, again your substituting your anecdotal feelings for an argument. You were socialized to prefer a specific kind of interaction but that doesn’t mean its superior. Ask Culture is not synonymous with radical honesty with a question attached as you are implying.
Tell culture is indisputably the superior method of communication if you take away your personal bias. I can operate perfectly well under guess or ask culture since that’s your favorite excuse for people who prefer tell culture.
Democratic Socialism is superior to American Capitalism. Immediately pressing for a shift between the systems may not be feasible, as operating effectively in society on pure tell culture is not a super good strategy, but DS is still objectively superior to AC and the same for TC>AC>GC.
Why in the world is Tell Culture a “rational” relationship strategy?
And the “science-based tips” is just a slightly rephrased “one weird trick”.
Tell Culture is the phrase I use to talk about open and honest communication, and that is supported by research about it being one of the best modes to use to achieve the goal of having happy relationships. I would disagree on the science of it, I cite quite a bit of studies there :-)
That’s a misuse of the term. Guess Culture people are perfectly capable of communicating openly and honestly.
Maybe I’m confused. Guess Culture as I understand it is specifically about not being open and honest about one’s desires and feelings, and instead expecting others to read your mind and guess what you want through subtle hints as opposed to honest and clear statements. Do we have a shared understanding of Guess Culture?
No, we do not.
You understand wrong. Ask and Guess Cultures are two different styles of communication. Within both styles it’s possible to be open and honest or to be closed and manipulative.
People from Ask Culture tend to perceive Guess Culture style as opaque and misleading because it’s not their culture and they don’t know how to operate in it. If you don’t understand how it works, of course it doesn’t look “open” to you.
Ask Culture interactions tend to be simpler, but the loss of complexity is not necessarily an advantage. I’ll take flirting over “wanna fuck?” any day.
Alright, guess we come from different premises :-) I will agree to disagree on this
This is an ignorant assertion. Just because you call something a “style” doesn’t immunize it from criticism. Guess culture is an irrational method of communication driven by a bias to avoiding emotional pain or manipulating ambiguity to manipulate a person. Its impossible to reconcile Guess Culture with the rationality promoted by this site. You can UNDERSTAND it, but its incredibly hypocritical to ADVOCATE for communication based on cognitive bias while maintaining consistency with even the broadest ideology of this site.
As far as Ask Culture, again your substituting your anecdotal feelings for an argument. You were socialized to prefer a specific kind of interaction but that doesn’t mean its superior. Ask Culture is not synonymous with radical honesty with a question attached as you are implying.
Tell culture is indisputably the superior method of communication if you take away your personal bias. I can operate perfectly well under guess or ask culture since that’s your favorite excuse for people who prefer tell culture.
Democratic Socialism is superior to American Capitalism. Immediately pressing for a shift between the systems may not be feasible, as operating effectively in society on pure tell culture is not a super good strategy, but DS is still objectively superior to AC and the same for TC>AC>GC.
Um, you realize you sound like an idiot, right?