You wrote a lot about asking for help without speaking about the most important aspect: Relationships.
I have a school friend with whom I spent a lot of time in the first two decades in my life and now speak with once per year. He got a PHD in mathematics and recently I had an issue where the a mathematical perspective was valuable. It wasn’t necessary to ask anybody for advice and there are likely a lot of other people I could have asked. Asking my old friend not only helped with the object level issue I was having but it was also a way to stay in touch with my old friend.
If you ask a friend for help it’s useful to think about how that influences your relationship with them. Is it something that makes the relationship deeper or is it something that takes away from the relationship?
You wrote a lot about asking for help without speaking about the most important aspect: Relationships.
I have a school friend with whom I spent a lot of time in the first two decades in my life and now speak with once per year. He got a PHD in mathematics and recently I had an issue where the a mathematical perspective was valuable. It wasn’t necessary to ask anybody for advice and there are likely a lot of other people I could have asked. Asking my old friend not only helped with the object level issue I was having but it was also a way to stay in touch with my old friend.
If you ask a friend for help it’s useful to think about how that influences your relationship with them. Is it something that makes the relationship deeper or is it something that takes away from the relationship?