A concrete example: I had a friend of a friend in an abusive relationship. They eventually got out of it, but later resumed contact with their abuser, who explicitly asked them for secrecy about the contact out of concern for their privacy. This prevented the victim’s friends from intervening, to the victim’s detriment.
[Obviously this is a pretty personal story. The victim has blessed the general case of sharing information like this, and I don’t care about the abuser]
Your friend’s case seems to be very clear cut, and the root issue is not some vague manipulation or secrecy, but the actual abuse that, I assume, continued through their interaction.
A concrete example: I had a friend of a friend in an abusive relationship. They eventually got out of it, but later resumed contact with their abuser, who explicitly asked them for secrecy about the contact out of concern for their privacy. This prevented the victim’s friends from intervening, to the victim’s detriment.
[Obviously this is a pretty personal story. The victim has blessed the general case of sharing information like this, and I don’t care about the abuser]
It’s definitely a huge red flag if someone is pressuring you out of sharing something with your closest friends.
Your friend’s case seems to be very clear cut, and the root issue is not some vague manipulation or secrecy, but the actual abuse that, I assume, continued through their interaction.