When non utilitarian rationalists consider big life changes, it seems to me that they don’t do it based on how happy that will make them, Why?
I don’t know the extent to which this applies to other people, but for me (a non-utilitarian) it does, so here’s my data point which may or may not give you some insight into how other non-utilitarians judge these things.
I can’t really say I value my own happiness much. Contentment / peace of mind (=/= happiness!) and meaningfulness are more like what I aim for; happiness is too fleeting, too momentary to seek it out all the time. I’m also naturally gloomy, and overt displays of cheerfulness just don’t hold much appeal for me, in an aesthetic sense. (They get me thinking of those fake ad people and their fake smiles. Nobody can look that happy all the time without getting paid for it!) There simply are more important things in life than my own happiness; that one can be sacrificed, if need be, for the sake of a higher value. I suppose it’s just like those utilitarians you’re talking about which are “trying to maximize the world’s something” rather than their own pleasure, only we don’t think of it in a quantitative way.
But non utiltarians, like I used to be, and like most here still are, are just… doing it like everyone else does it! “Oh, that seems like a cool change, I’ll do it! yay!” then two weeks later that particular thing has none of the coolness effect it had before, but they are stuck with the decision for years....… (in case of decisions like job, partner, quitting, smoking, big travels, big decisions, not ice cream flavour stuff)
Well… that’s a rather unflattering way of putting it. You don’t have to compute utilities in order for your decision-making process to look a wee little more elaborate than that.
I don’t know the extent to which this applies to other people, but for me (a non-utilitarian) it does, so here’s my data point which may or may not give you some insight into how other non-utilitarians judge these things.
I can’t really say I value my own happiness much. Contentment / peace of mind (=/= happiness!) and meaningfulness are more like what I aim for; happiness is too fleeting, too momentary to seek it out all the time. I’m also naturally gloomy, and overt displays of cheerfulness just don’t hold much appeal for me, in an aesthetic sense. (They get me thinking of those fake ad people and their fake smiles. Nobody can look that happy all the time without getting paid for it!) There simply are more important things in life than my own happiness; that one can be sacrificed, if need be, for the sake of a higher value. I suppose it’s just like those utilitarians you’re talking about which are “trying to maximize the world’s something” rather than their own pleasure, only we don’t think of it in a quantitative way.
Well… that’s a rather unflattering way of putting it. You don’t have to compute utilities in order for your decision-making process to look a wee little more elaborate than that.