Without knowing about your interest and the kind of people you want to meet it’s hard to give targeted advice.
It also depends a lot on local customs. One meditation has a culture where the people who attend the event bond together, others don’t.
As far as dancing goes, the default interaction is physical. If you want to make friends you also have to talk. If talking comes hard to you then dancing won’t produce strong friendships.
If your goal is to build a social circle it’s also vital to attend events together with other people. Constantly going alone to events doesn’t fit that purpose.
Good points. I was intentionally keeping things general (and thus vague) for a few reasons. To be more specific, I’m looking for people who are similar to myself. The main restriction here is that I’m looking to meet reasonably smart people, which I think is a prerequisite to knowing me better. (I could be much more specific if you’d like to help me out more, but I’d prefer to take that to a private message.)
I’m curious about your thoughts on attending events with other people. Why would this help?
I’m curious about your thoughts on attending events with other people. Why would this help?
I once read somewhere that being a friend means seeing a person in at least three different contexts.
Going to a meditation event together with people from my local LessWrong meetup increases the feeling of friendship between me and the other LW’ler.
If I dance Salsa with a girl that I first meet at a Salsa unrelated birthday party it feels like there a stronger friendship bond than if I just see her from time to time at Salsa events.
It’s important to interact with people in different contexts if you want to build a friendship with them.
(I could be much more specific if you’d like to help me out more, but I’d prefer to take that to a private message.)
I can’t promise that I have useful advice before knowing the specifics, but I’m happy to take my shoot.
Without knowing about your interest and the kind of people you want to meet it’s hard to give targeted advice.
It also depends a lot on local customs. One meditation has a culture where the people who attend the event bond together, others don’t.
As far as dancing goes, the default interaction is physical. If you want to make friends you also have to talk. If talking comes hard to you then dancing won’t produce strong friendships.
If your goal is to build a social circle it’s also vital to attend events together with other people. Constantly going alone to events doesn’t fit that purpose.
Good points. I was intentionally keeping things general (and thus vague) for a few reasons. To be more specific, I’m looking for people who are similar to myself. The main restriction here is that I’m looking to meet reasonably smart people, which I think is a prerequisite to knowing me better. (I could be much more specific if you’d like to help me out more, but I’d prefer to take that to a private message.)
I’m curious about your thoughts on attending events with other people. Why would this help?
I once read somewhere that being a friend means seeing a person in at least three different contexts. Going to a meditation event together with people from my local LessWrong meetup increases the feeling of friendship between me and the other LW’ler.
If I dance Salsa with a girl that I first meet at a Salsa unrelated birthday party it feels like there a stronger friendship bond than if I just see her from time to time at Salsa events.
It’s important to interact with people in different contexts if you want to build a friendship with them.
I can’t promise that I have useful advice before knowing the specifics, but I’m happy to take my shoot.
Thanks, this all makes sense. I’ll have to take you up on the offer later, as my priorities are shifting now.