I had just encouraged many young women to join a team who talks over me, puts a lesser value to my opinion, and makes assumptions about my intelligence before I open my mouth. Their fate would certainly be the same if they decided to heed my advice.
Not completely the same, because if they ended up in your team, presumably you wouldn’t do this to them, and they wouldn’t to each other. Sometimes, just one person who respects you, can make a big difference.
But I agree that telling them that everything is okay would still be lying.
Unfortunately that’s generally not true in my experience. I’ve seen women in stressful, sexist workplaces lash out at other women, and generally be very hostile towards each other. It’s just human nature—you see the same thing in children who have been scolded and then lash out on their younger sibling in response. It’s why bullies in school often come from troubled home environments. As they say in the military: “shit rolls downhill.”
You have to create and nurture a supportive, cooperative environment to overcome that natural behavior. It is very much not the default.
I agree that increased saturation of women on the team would overall benefit the women on the team however as the other replier mention, women are often pit against each other as there is an unsaid sense of competition as we know that we will be given less opportunities than the men.
Not completely the same, because if they ended up in your team, presumably you wouldn’t do this to them, and they wouldn’t to each other. Sometimes, just one person who respects you, can make a big difference.
But I agree that telling them that everything is okay would still be lying.
Unfortunately that’s generally not true in my experience. I’ve seen women in stressful, sexist workplaces lash out at other women, and generally be very hostile towards each other. It’s just human nature—you see the same thing in children who have been scolded and then lash out on their younger sibling in response. It’s why bullies in school often come from troubled home environments. As they say in the military: “shit rolls downhill.”
You have to create and nurture a supportive, cooperative environment to overcome that natural behavior. It is very much not the default.
I agree that increased saturation of women on the team would overall benefit the women on the team however as the other replier mention, women are often pit against each other as there is an unsaid sense of competition as we know that we will be given less opportunities than the men.