To the list of actions I want to add: don’t use commitments to extend the reach of your social pressure.
There’s a trap where people ask for ambiguous commitments in ways that are socially awkward to say no to (because obviously they mean the weak version that only a mean or autistic person would say no to!), and then try to hold you to the strong version later (because you committed!).
To the list of actions I want to add: don’t use commitments to extend the reach of your social pressure.
There’s a trap where people ask for ambiguous commitments in ways that are socially awkward to say no to (because obviously they mean the weak version that only a mean or autistic person would say no to!), and then try to hold you to the strong version later (because you committed!).