I think your comments in this thread have been brusque/pushy in a way that’s hurting the conversation (others feel free to chime in if that seems wrong to them).
I mentioned in a different comment that I’ve appreciated some of farp’s comments here for pushing back against what I see as a missing mood in this conversation (acknowledgment that the events described in Zoe’s account are horrifying, as well as reassurance that people in leadership positions are taking the allegations seriously and might take some actions in response). I also appreciate Ruby’s statement that we shouldn’t pressure or judge people who might have something relevant to say.
The unitofcaring post on mediators and advocates seems relevant here. I interpret farp (edit: not necessarily in the parent comment, but in various other comments in this thread) as saying that they’d like to see more advocacy in this thread instead of just mediation. I am not someone who has any personal experiences to share about Leverage, but if I imagine how I’d personally feel if I did, I think I agree.
You can start seeking truth, and pivot to advocate, as UOC says.
The entire thesis of the post is that you want a mixture of advocacy and mediation in the community. So if your proposal is that we all mediate, and then pivot to advocacy, I think that is not at all what UOC says.
Not that I super endorse the prescription / dichotomy that the post makes to begin with.
I liked Farp’s “Let’s stand up for the truth” comment, and thought it felt appropriate. (I think for different reasons than “mediators and advocates”—I just like people bluntly stating what they think, saying the ‘obvious’, and cheerleading for values that genuinely deserve cheering for. I guess I didn’t expect Ollie to feel pressured-in-a-bad-way by the comment, even if he disagrees with the implied advice.)
Thanks. Your comments and mayleaf’s do mean a lot to me. Also, I was surprised by negative reaction to that comment and didn’t really expect it to come off as admonishment or pressure. Love 2 cheerlead \o/
I have thought about this UOC post and it has grown on me.
The fact is that I believe Zoe and I believe her experience is not some sort of anomaly. But I am happy to advocate for her just on principle.
Geoff has much more resources and much at stake. Zoe just has (IMO) the truth and bravery and little to gain but peace. Justice for Geoff just doesn’t need my assistance, but justice for Zoe might.
So I am happy to blindly ally with Zoe and any other victims. And yes I would like others to do the same, and broadcast that we will fight for them. Otherwise they are entering a potentially shitty looking fight with little to gain against somebody with everything to lose.
I don’t demand that no mediation take place, but if I want to plant my flag, that’s my business. It’s not like I am doing anything dishonest in the course of my advocacy.
And to be completely frank, as an advocate for the victims, I don’t really want AnnaSalomon to be one of the major mediators here. I don’t think she’s got a good track record with CFAR stuff at all—I have mentioned Robert Lecnik a few times already.
I think Kelsey’s post is right—mediators need to seem impartial. For me, Anna can’t serve this role. I couldn’t say how representative I am.
I mentioned in a different comment that I’ve appreciated some of farp’s comments here for pushing back against what I see as a missing mood in this conversation (acknowledgment that the events described in Zoe’s account are horrifying, as well as reassurance that people in leadership positions are taking the allegations seriously and might take some actions in response). I also appreciate Ruby’s statement that we shouldn’t pressure or judge people who might have something relevant to say.
The unitofcaring post on mediators and advocates seems relevant here. I interpret farp (edit: not necessarily in the parent comment, but in various other comments in this thread) as saying that they’d like to see more advocacy in this thread instead of just mediation. I am not someone who has any personal experiences to share about Leverage, but if I imagine how I’d personally feel if I did, I think I agree.
On mediators and advocates: I think order-of-operations MATTERS.
You can start seeking truth, and pivot to advocate, as UOC says.
What people often can’t do easily is start with advocate, and pivot to truth.
And with something like this? What you advocated early can do a lot to color both what and who you listen to, and who you hear from.
The entire thesis of the post is that you want a mixture of advocacy and mediation in the community. So if your proposal is that we all mediate, and then pivot to advocacy, I think that is not at all what UOC says.
Not that I super endorse the prescription / dichotomy that the post makes to begin with.
I liked Farp’s “Let’s stand up for the truth” comment, and thought it felt appropriate. (I think for different reasons than “mediators and advocates”—I just like people bluntly stating what they think, saying the ‘obvious’, and cheerleading for values that genuinely deserve cheering for. I guess I didn’t expect Ollie to feel pressured-in-a-bad-way by the comment, even if he disagrees with the implied advice.)
Thanks. Your comments and mayleaf’s do mean a lot to me. Also, I was surprised by negative reaction to that comment and didn’t really expect it to come off as admonishment or pressure. Love 2 cheerlead \o/
I have thought about this UOC post and it has grown on me.
The fact is that I believe Zoe and I believe her experience is not some sort of anomaly. But I am happy to advocate for her just on principle.
Geoff has much more resources and much at stake. Zoe just has (IMO) the truth and bravery and little to gain but peace. Justice for Geoff just doesn’t need my assistance, but justice for Zoe might.
So I am happy to blindly ally with Zoe and any other victims. And yes I would like others to do the same, and broadcast that we will fight for them. Otherwise they are entering a potentially shitty looking fight with little to gain against somebody with everything to lose.
I don’t demand that no mediation take place, but if I want to plant my flag, that’s my business. It’s not like I am doing anything dishonest in the course of my advocacy.
And to be completely frank, as an advocate for the victims, I don’t really want AnnaSalomon to be one of the major mediators here. I don’t think she’s got a good track record with CFAR stuff at all—I have mentioned Robert Lecnik a few times already.
I think Kelsey’s post is right—mediators need to seem impartial. For me, Anna can’t serve this role. I couldn’t say how representative I am.
I will be happy to contribute financially to Zoe’s legal defense, if Geoff decides to take revenge.
In the meanwhile, I am curious about what actually happened. The more people talk, the better.