There are a lot more things that people can consider a ‘habit’ than most people would consider, I would expect. It’s easy to think of ‘getting up at 5 AM’ or ‘eating well’ or ‘exercising’ to be a habit. I’ve witnessed exercise as a habit, to be sure, when I watched my siblings—who were very active in sports—get downright surly if they didn’t have time for their morning jog.
But there’s a lot of small habits in everything we do, that we don’t really notice. Necessary habits. When someone asks you how you are, the habitual answer is ‘Fine, thank you,’ or something similar. It’s what people expect. The entire greeting ritual is habitualness, to the point that if you disrupt the greeting, it throws people off.
The most important habits this can be used to engender and train yourself, relative to this site, are the habits of rationality. For instance, the habit of asking ‘why?’ Amusingly enough, this is the habit of breaking habits.
I feel bad. Why? I’m not that sort of person. Why? I don’t like that. Why? I do like that! Why? I don’t believe you. Why?
This can also be the habit of listening. It’s so easy to cross something off a list of things that you’ll consider—for instance, aliens, or ghosts. Someone claims that they believe in aliens. I see many people who absolutely refuse to even consider that. It’s stupid. The arguments are all the same. No one’s ever actually seen one, they just know someone who’s seen one. The arguments for not listening are many and varied...
But it takes only a couple minutes, when someone tells you that they believe in aliens, to listen and actually appraise their reason. And I mean, really listen. Tell yourself, “Well, it’s possible I’m wrong. Let’s hear.” The thought, in your head, is more vital than the act of listening.
If you act like you’re listening, but your thoughts are saying, “There is no possible way they are right, I’m just listening because rationality demands it, and I’ll be able to dismiss their arguments in a moment,” then you’re closing your mind. But if you truly let yourself listen, and tell yourself, in the silence of your mind, that there’s a chance they’re right, then you open yourself up to amazing things… even if it’s not something that supports what they’re arguing, you might come across some stray fact, some mental structure, that you hadn’t considered before, and it could open up some level of understanding on an otherwise unrelated area of consideration, such as, “Ah, wait… what if this is why people act in this way?”
What I find the most important part of this article is not ‘how can we use our thoughts to create habits,’ but instead ‘be more aware of the thoughts you have—are they the thoughts you want to become word and act?’ Just having a thought does not guarantee it will become word or act, but if you find yourself in the habit of evaluating the thoughts running through your mind … you will be far more able to encourage the good habits and destroy the bad habits.
Only then can you move forward to ‘create’ habits… for instance, what you were saying about sustainable habits, and coming up with exceptions for ‘new habits’ - you need an all or nothing approach, or else you think your way around it and make excuses. That suggests that your thought was not controlled, and that you think you’re the sort of person who makes excuses. What if, instead of trying to get into the habit of eating less meat … you instead had a goal of trying to create a habit of not making excuses for yourself?
Not trying to target you specifically, but more thinking about the topic on a much more general level and tossing out some general ideas that might apply to a number of different people.
What I find the most important part of this article is not ‘how can we use our thoughts to create habits,’ but instead ‘be more aware of the thoughts you have—are they the thoughts you want to become word and act?’
I think that’s one of the most powerful messages of the quote. A thought doesn’t have to become word or action, but an unquestioned thought, a thought that is allowed to determine what kind of person we think we are, is much likelier to become word, action, habit, character...etc. Whereas if a thought that is stopped in its tracks and corrected, then it will stop there. And yes, that has a lot to do with asking ‘why’.
Not critical to your point, but I can’t stand this habitual exchange:
But there’s a lot of small habits in everything we do, that we don’t really notice. Necessary habits. When someone asks you how you are, the habitual answer is ‘Fine, thank you,’ or something similar. It’s what people expect. The entire greeting ritual is habitualness, to the point that if you disrupt the greeting, it throws people off.
When people ask how I am, I want to give them information. I want to tell them, “Actually I’ve had a bad headache all day; and I’m underemployed right now and really lonely.” Or sometimes I’m feeling good, and I want to say “I feel great!” and have them actually know that I feel great and not think that I’m just carrying through the formula.
Human speech is one of the most valuable resources in the universe, and he were are wasting it on things that convey no information.
Human speech is one of the most valuable resources in the universe, and he were are wasting it on things that convey no information.
It is not a scarce resource on the relevant scale. Water is valuable in the sense that you can do a thousand things, some essential, with it; this does not mean that flush toilets are an abomination.
There are a lot more things that people can consider a ‘habit’ than most people would consider, I would expect. It’s easy to think of ‘getting up at 5 AM’ or ‘eating well’ or ‘exercising’ to be a habit. I’ve witnessed exercise as a habit, to be sure, when I watched my siblings—who were very active in sports—get downright surly if they didn’t have time for their morning jog.
But there’s a lot of small habits in everything we do, that we don’t really notice. Necessary habits. When someone asks you how you are, the habitual answer is ‘Fine, thank you,’ or something similar. It’s what people expect. The entire greeting ritual is habitualness, to the point that if you disrupt the greeting, it throws people off.
The most important habits this can be used to engender and train yourself, relative to this site, are the habits of rationality. For instance, the habit of asking ‘why?’ Amusingly enough, this is the habit of breaking habits.
I feel bad. Why? I’m not that sort of person. Why? I don’t like that. Why? I do like that! Why? I don’t believe you. Why?
This can also be the habit of listening. It’s so easy to cross something off a list of things that you’ll consider—for instance, aliens, or ghosts. Someone claims that they believe in aliens. I see many people who absolutely refuse to even consider that. It’s stupid. The arguments are all the same. No one’s ever actually seen one, they just know someone who’s seen one. The arguments for not listening are many and varied...
But it takes only a couple minutes, when someone tells you that they believe in aliens, to listen and actually appraise their reason. And I mean, really listen. Tell yourself, “Well, it’s possible I’m wrong. Let’s hear.” The thought, in your head, is more vital than the act of listening.
If you act like you’re listening, but your thoughts are saying, “There is no possible way they are right, I’m just listening because rationality demands it, and I’ll be able to dismiss their arguments in a moment,” then you’re closing your mind. But if you truly let yourself listen, and tell yourself, in the silence of your mind, that there’s a chance they’re right, then you open yourself up to amazing things… even if it’s not something that supports what they’re arguing, you might come across some stray fact, some mental structure, that you hadn’t considered before, and it could open up some level of understanding on an otherwise unrelated area of consideration, such as, “Ah, wait… what if this is why people act in this way?”
What I find the most important part of this article is not ‘how can we use our thoughts to create habits,’ but instead ‘be more aware of the thoughts you have—are they the thoughts you want to become word and act?’ Just having a thought does not guarantee it will become word or act, but if you find yourself in the habit of evaluating the thoughts running through your mind … you will be far more able to encourage the good habits and destroy the bad habits.
Only then can you move forward to ‘create’ habits… for instance, what you were saying about sustainable habits, and coming up with exceptions for ‘new habits’ - you need an all or nothing approach, or else you think your way around it and make excuses. That suggests that your thought was not controlled, and that you think you’re the sort of person who makes excuses. What if, instead of trying to get into the habit of eating less meat … you instead had a goal of trying to create a habit of not making excuses for yourself?
Not trying to target you specifically, but more thinking about the topic on a much more general level and tossing out some general ideas that might apply to a number of different people.
I think that’s one of the most powerful messages of the quote. A thought doesn’t have to become word or action, but an unquestioned thought, a thought that is allowed to determine what kind of person we think we are, is much likelier to become word, action, habit, character...etc. Whereas if a thought that is stopped in its tracks and corrected, then it will stop there. And yes, that has a lot to do with asking ‘why’.
Not critical to your point, but I can’t stand this habitual exchange:
When people ask how I am, I want to give them information. I want to tell them, “Actually I’ve had a bad headache all day; and I’m underemployed right now and really lonely.” Or sometimes I’m feeling good, and I want to say “I feel great!” and have them actually know that I feel great and not think that I’m just carrying through the formula.
Human speech is one of the most valuable resources in the universe, and he were are wasting it on things that convey no information.
It is not a scarce resource on the relevant scale. Water is valuable in the sense that you can do a thousand things, some essential, with it; this does not mean that flush toilets are an abomination.
Arguably… They could be.
http://www.time.com/time/health/article/0,8599,1857113,00.html
It is really easy (and almost costless) to reduce the quantity of water they use. It might indeed seem an abonimation to continue using them.