Upon further reflection, I think the question of “how much of the pain/suffering/unpleasantness/etc. from a given even happens on the spot, and how much lingers on in the memory?” has an answer that wildly varies, even for the same individual.
The worst physical pain I ever felt involved a certain surgical operation, but it causes me no discomfort whatsoever to remember it; conversely, I once got stung by an unknown insect while still half-asleep, and the thought still makes me twitch and clutch at my neck. On a more mental level, there are a few seemingly random subjects that make me flinch and feel burning shame whenever brought up, because almost a decade ago I happened to make a fool of myself in conversations that involved them; yet those were by no means the most sorrowful moments of my life, or even the most embarrassing.
So I would consider the question “would you take X pre-memory wipe, or Y post-wipe?” highly dependant on X and Y. And yes, I find myself agreeing that X=‘condemn a stranger to torture’ would be exactly the kind of event that inflicts the majority of its suffering through memory and regret.
On a more mental level, there are a few seemingly random subjects that make me flinch and feel burning shame whenever brought up, because almost a decade ago I happened to make a fool of myself in conversations that involved them; yet those were by no means the most sorrowful moments of my life, or even the most embarrassing.
Regret management seems to get more important with age. The fuckers accumulate.
One thing I do is remind myself, “I want to be the kind of guy who’s cool with having done that.” And, if possible, “It was an inexpensive lesson that it was good to learn.” Do affirmations like that have any impact on your regrets?
Upon further reflection, I think the question of “how much of the pain/suffering/unpleasantness/etc. from a given even happens on the spot, and how much lingers on in the memory?” has an answer that wildly varies, even for the same individual.
The worst physical pain I ever felt involved a certain surgical operation, but it causes me no discomfort whatsoever to remember it; conversely, I once got stung by an unknown insect while still half-asleep, and the thought still makes me twitch and clutch at my neck. On a more mental level, there are a few seemingly random subjects that make me flinch and feel burning shame whenever brought up, because almost a decade ago I happened to make a fool of myself in conversations that involved them; yet those were by no means the most sorrowful moments of my life, or even the most embarrassing.
So I would consider the question “would you take X pre-memory wipe, or Y post-wipe?” highly dependant on X and Y. And yes, I find myself agreeing that X=‘condemn a stranger to torture’ would be exactly the kind of event that inflicts the majority of its suffering through memory and regret.
Regret management seems to get more important with age. The fuckers accumulate.
One thing I do is remind myself, “I want to be the kind of guy who’s cool with having done that.” And, if possible, “It was an inexpensive lesson that it was good to learn.” Do affirmations like that have any impact on your regrets?