You and Ben make fair points. I think I didn’t have a good sense of what level of gossip Ben was pushing back against; I had a sense he was pushing back against “occasionally gossip at parties” which seemed too strong to me (that’s the level of gossip I get exposed to by default), but if Ben is pushing against something more like “15% of my conversations are dominated by gossip by default” that would make more sense to me.
You and Ben make fair points. I think I didn’t have a good sense of what level of gossip Ben was pushing back against; I had a sense he was pushing back against “occasionally gossip at parties” which seemed too strong to me (that’s the level of gossip I get exposed to by default), but if Ben is pushing against something more like “15% of my conversations are dominated by gossip by default” that would make more sense to me.