The “before” state you describe, where you find yourself having arguments with stubborn advisors who refuse to change their minds, reminds me strongly of rumination.
I say this because it’s something I’m working on to get out of. I’ll sometimes find myself engaged in a pretty adversarial discussion about what boils down to my boundaries and be unable to fall asleep for a few hours. And it’s usually the same cast of characters. I’ve found that I can consciously jump out of it by reminding myself that I’m merely burning energy without changing reality in any way. But I usually have to do this a few times before the “bad advisor” finally quiets down.
Do bad shoulder advisors feel like rumination to you?
The “before” state you describe, where you find yourself having arguments with stubborn advisors who refuse to change their minds, reminds me strongly of rumination.
I say this because it’s something I’m working on to get out of. I’ll sometimes find myself engaged in a pretty adversarial discussion about what boils down to my boundaries and be unable to fall asleep for a few hours. And it’s usually the same cast of characters. I’ve found that I can consciously jump out of it by reminding myself that I’m merely burning energy without changing reality in any way. But I usually have to do this a few times before the “bad advisor” finally quiets down.
Do bad shoulder advisors feel like rumination to you?
That sounds right.