I don’t know that I’ve run into this lately, but I think I’ve also selected on having friends who are generally considerate of each other. My local culture is fairly reveal-like, but has a fair amount of effort put into things like “here’s me saying what’s important to me, but I want to be clear this is not an obligation on you.” (We keep saying “not an obligation” even though it’s generally well understood, and I think that’s a good equilibrium because it prevents things from accidentally drifting into the Tell Culture failure modes)
Others are welcome to offer concrete examples! I was mostly hearing about this second hand from Bay Area rationalists myself :P
I don’t know that I’ve run into this lately, but I think I’ve also selected on having friends who are generally considerate of each other. My local culture is fairly reveal-like, but has a fair amount of effort put into things like “here’s me saying what’s important to me, but I want to be clear this is not an obligation on you.” (We keep saying “not an obligation” even though it’s generally well understood, and I think that’s a good equilibrium because it prevents things from accidentally drifting into the Tell Culture failure modes)