• How to be aware of other people’s points of view without merging with them
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• How to restrain yourself from anger or upset
• How to take unflattering comments or disagreement in stride
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• How to resist impulses to evade the issue or make misleading points
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• How to understand another person’s perspective
It wasn’t the reason I got into it in the first place, but I have found mindfulness practice helpful for these things. I think that’s because mindfulness involves a lot of introspection and metacognition, and those skills transfer pretty well to modeling other people, and are useful for restraining unhelpful emotional impulses. In particular, knowing how to recognize and restrain anger in oneself, I strongly suspect, makes one better at anticipating how one’s words might set off other people’s anger, and coming up with strategies to avert or de-escalate such confrontations. It’s analogous to a phenomenon that I expect will sound familiar to LW readers, which is that getting better at noticing mistakes and biases in one’s own thinking also makes one better at noticing them in other people’s thinking.
It wasn’t the reason I got into it in the first place, but I have found mindfulness practice helpful for these things. I think that’s because mindfulness involves a lot of introspection and metacognition, and those skills transfer pretty well to modeling other people, and are useful for restraining unhelpful emotional impulses. In particular, knowing how to recognize and restrain anger in oneself, I strongly suspect, makes one better at anticipating how one’s words might set off other people’s anger, and coming up with strategies to avert or de-escalate such confrontations. It’s analogous to a phenomenon that I expect will sound familiar to LW readers, which is that getting better at noticing mistakes and biases in one’s own thinking also makes one better at noticing them in other people’s thinking.