I’ve been able to turn non-social curiosity into good social interaction. Dale Carnegie says that if you want to be a good conversationalist...if you want people to like you… you need to talk about what the other person wants to talk about. And often the other person wants to talk about themselves, if only for a second. But, what happens if 2 Dale Carnegie followers talk? “Enough about me, lets talk about you”. “No no, enough about me, lets talk about you.”
I find a better application is, ask a question, or 2, and then rather than asking more questions, make a comment. Doesn’t have to be perfect. More knowledge (from basic-research-curiousity) gives you more comments you can make. What little thing do you know about what the other person just said? About fishing, or the university of x, or the story they just told. People don’t want to answer questions, they want to relate. “How’s the job going?” “Oh yeah I know what you mean...I had a boss who used to do the same thing.”
Obviously that can get too banal, which is why the basic-research-curiousity pays off: you can elevate the “we relate” by having something more to say, about things.
I’ve been able to turn non-social curiosity into good social interaction. Dale Carnegie says that if you want to be a good conversationalist...if you want people to like you… you need to talk about what the other person wants to talk about. And often the other person wants to talk about themselves, if only for a second. But, what happens if 2 Dale Carnegie followers talk? “Enough about me, lets talk about you”. “No no, enough about me, lets talk about you.”
I find a better application is, ask a question, or 2, and then rather than asking more questions, make a comment. Doesn’t have to be perfect. More knowledge (from basic-research-curiousity) gives you more comments you can make. What little thing do you know about what the other person just said? About fishing, or the university of x, or the story they just told. People don’t want to answer questions, they want to relate. “How’s the job going?” “Oh yeah I know what you mean...I had a boss who used to do the same thing.”
Obviously that can get too banal, which is why the basic-research-curiousity pays off: you can elevate the “we relate” by having something more to say, about things.