I have been having this experience quite often, lately.
The solution I’m currently attempting is to stop myself from ever assigning blame, and then treating my failure to communicate/explain as a very difficult and interesting problem (which it is). There are people who consistently do much better than me at solving this problem, so my audience’s failure or lack thereof is irrelevant to the possibility for improvement available to me.
I haven’t completely implemented this mindset yet, but it seems to be helping so far.
I haven’t completely implemented this mindset yet, but it seems to be helping so far.
Yes. Your responses to criticism are generally measured (even though perhaps you would have a right to be a bit less measured), and usually make you look better in terms of signaling. You maintain the high ground, and don’t dig yourself into holes.
The attitude you have recently displayed in your posting history in response to criticism could serve as an example to Silas of an example of what to do (rather than people just telling him what not to do). Of course, your approach isn’t the only way, but it contains elements that could be useful.
I did regard them as loaded questions. That characteristic is orthogonal to their accuracy.
But even if I didn’t, your parenthetical has not helped you. It was an attempt to score points, and those points will not make you stronger. That dig at Rain has not helped you communicate or explain anything other than your disdain; you are not trying to solve the problem.
I have been having this experience quite often, lately.
The solution I’m currently attempting is to stop myself from ever assigning blame, and then treating my failure to communicate/explain as a very difficult and interesting problem (which it is). There are people who consistently do much better than me at solving this problem, so my audience’s failure or lack thereof is irrelevant to the possibility for improvement available to me.
I haven’t completely implemented this mindset yet, but it seems to be helping so far.
Yes. Your responses to criticism are generally measured (even though perhaps you would have a right to be a bit less measured), and usually make you look better in terms of signaling. You maintain the high ground, and don’t dig yourself into holes.
The attitude you have recently displayed in your posting history in response to criticism could serve as an example to Silas of an example of what to do (rather than people just telling him what not to do). Of course, your approach isn’t the only way, but it contains elements that could be useful.
Thanks for the pointer. (Be sure to tell Rain why you didn’t regard the questions as loaded.)
I did regard them as loaded questions. That characteristic is orthogonal to their accuracy.
But even if I didn’t, your parenthetical has not helped you. It was an attempt to score points, and those points will not make you stronger. That dig at Rain has not helped you communicate or explain anything other than your disdain; you are not trying to solve the problem.