You have point; I was not aware of it. Still, his choice, not yours. If he brought up being fat repeatedly do you think he’ll be ok with you doing the same? I think not unless he said otherwise.
If he said (and this is all public), “You know, one of my vices is that I left myself get fat. But I don’t really care. I actually prefer my present lifestyle; I’m quite happy this way.”
And then I said, “I used to be that way, but then I decided to lose weight and succeeded.”
And then he said, “Meh. Whatever works for you, I guess.”
“I know some tricks...” “Not interested.”
And then a year later I said, “One difference between you and me is that when I was fat, I didn’t decide to stay that way.”
What would you think? Because that’s what happened, once you carry the transformation through.
Like I said, you have a point (in karma, too ;). I retract this line of objection, but I will talk to him IRL next time to confirm. The perception issue still stands.
public criticism != public embarassment
The former might be highly useful, if one chooses to learn from it, the latter is almost never useful.
Then maybe Crono shouldn’t have brought it up repeatedly?
(And the things I was referring to in my previous remarks crossed over into embarassment, despite also being criticisms.)
You have point; I was not aware of it. Still, his choice, not yours. If he brought up being fat repeatedly do you think he’ll be ok with you doing the same? I think not unless he said otherwise.
If he said (and this is all public), “You know, one of my vices is that I left myself get fat. But I don’t really care. I actually prefer my present lifestyle; I’m quite happy this way.”
And then I said, “I used to be that way, but then I decided to lose weight and succeeded.”
And then he said, “Meh. Whatever works for you, I guess.”
“I know some tricks...” “Not interested.”
And then a year later I said, “One difference between you and me is that when I was fat, I didn’t decide to stay that way.”
What would you think? Because that’s what happened, once you carry the transformation through.
Like I said, you have a point (in karma, too ;). I retract this line of objection, but I will talk to him IRL next time to confirm. The perception issue still stands.