Judging by the comments on this thread, it seemed that a lot of people still felt guilt, so I assumed that “this is okay” is not a clear community norm, despite the actual behavior being quite common. I wanted to signal boost “I am okay with this, and I strongly suspect so are a lot of people” without lying and claiming I actually knew how the community-at-large felt :)
Judging by the comments on this thread, it seemed that a lot of people still felt guilt, so I assumed that “this is okay” is not a clear community norm, despite the actual behavior being quite common. I wanted to signal boost “I am okay with this, and I strongly suspect so are a lot of people” without lying and claiming I actually knew how the community-at-large felt :)