Why was the video saying that Z had responsibility over their emotions? One thing I’ve learned throughout my life, although I can’t point to when or where, is that people have no immediate control over their emotions, that they can’t help how they feel about a particular thing when it happens.
Are you sure? This is a topic I’d like to know more about.
My current thoughts on the matter:
We might have no control over the original input, we have control over how we process it.
A negative thought can be suppressed, analyzed to see if it matches truth, or fed back constantly in a crazy echo. And that, we can control.
So while it would be impossible to prevent a pang of jealousy, anger, etc… It’s possible to quell it or reinforce it. And of course, one can always choose how to act upon it. Voicing a concern, having a conversation, making demands, cheating, …
Incidentally, this is why some shades of selfishness can be a virtue, not that common culture is ever going to say it outright.
I actually think this is a very very common meme, although it’s usually not phrased as bluntly as “a little selfishness can be a virtue”. Things about taking care of yourself first. On saying no. etc etc
Emphasis on slowing down the reaction. I don’t know how to give better instruction than that. But slow down. (if you have better instructions I’d like to hear it)
Are you sure? This is a topic I’d like to know more about.
My current thoughts on the matter:
We might have no control over the original input, we have control over how we process it.
A negative thought can be suppressed, analyzed to see if it matches truth, or fed back constantly in a crazy echo. And that, we can control.
So while it would be impossible to prevent a pang of jealousy, anger, etc… It’s possible to quell it or reinforce it. And of course, one can always choose how to act upon it. Voicing a concern, having a conversation, making demands, cheating, …
I actually think this is a very very common meme, although it’s usually not phrased as bluntly as “a little selfishness can be a virtue”. Things about taking care of yourself first. On saying no. etc etc
Emphasis on slowing down the reaction. I don’t know how to give better instruction than that. But slow down. (if you have better instructions I’d like to hear it)
Give you more time to process before reacting.