Nvc proposes that you want to separate the feelings, the needs, and the actions/strategies to meet the needs.
“you make me feel...” is wrong thinking.
“I need you to take me to dinner so that I can be happy” is wrong thinking too.
Identifying “I am sad”. Then identify “I want to be happy”. Then propose “I want you to take me to dinner because I think that will make me happy”. In theory there are a lot of causes of happiness or anger or various emotions.
Keep in mind also that we have our emotions they don’t have us. It’s a choice how to act on emotions.. A choice where options open up and gets easier with practice.
Nvc proposes that you want to separate the feelings, the needs, and the actions/strategies to meet the needs.
“you make me feel...” is wrong thinking.
“I need you to take me to dinner so that I can be happy” is wrong thinking too.
Identifying “I am sad”. Then identify “I want to be happy”. Then propose “I want you to take me to dinner because I think that will make me happy”. In theory there are a lot of causes of happiness or anger or various emotions.
Keep in mind also that we have our emotions they don’t have us. It’s a choice how to act on emotions.. A choice where options open up and gets easier with practice.
What is Nvc? Google fails me :-\
https://youtu.be/l7TONauJGfc
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nonviolent_Communication