Regarding “get in the kitchen!”—submitter seems to be making an implicit connotative jump, because she likes cooking, to take it as if the sentence were simply equivalent to “Go do your favorite thing!” But that’s not the connotation that is usually there. The people saying something like that usually mean it more like “Go do this thing whether or not you like doing it all, because it’s too low status for males to bother themselves with it.”
Also of “you ought to be feeding us because you’re not important/competent enough to otherwise contribute”
Also of “you ought to be feeding us because you’re not important/competent enough to otherwise contribute”