She doesn’t deconvert. We remain married, happily.
She doesn’t deconvert. We remain married, unhappily.
I also predict she could get an annulment pretty easily given my deconversion, which adds another option:
I divorce her. She gets married when she’s ready and is not ousted from the Catholic community.
Also, it seems like you’ve honed in on the beliefs of my children and wife as the most important factors (with a side of my wife’s future unhappiness, but I’m not sure if you counted that toward the weakening of overall religious influence). Do you think there are other factors to weigh?
In any case, I find the most valuable point to be your reminder to me that this is long term. I’ve tried to keep that in mind, though weighting near unhappiness vs. far improvement is definitely a potential trap. I’m 27 and thus probably do have more than 10 years.
Nonetheless, it still strikes me as a complex situation and I’m not settled on how to judge potential future states and sum the collective happinesses of the stakeholders.
What about other options:
She doesn’t deconvert. We remain married, happily.
She doesn’t deconvert. We remain married, unhappily.
I also predict she could get an annulment pretty easily given my deconversion, which adds another option:
I divorce her. She gets married when she’s ready and is not ousted from the Catholic community.
Also, it seems like you’ve honed in on the beliefs of my children and wife as the most important factors (with a side of my wife’s future unhappiness, but I’m not sure if you counted that toward the weakening of overall religious influence). Do you think there are other factors to weigh?
In any case, I find the most valuable point to be your reminder to me that this is long term. I’ve tried to keep that in mind, though weighting near unhappiness vs. far improvement is definitely a potential trap. I’m 27 and thus probably do have more than 10 years.
Nonetheless, it still strikes me as a complex situation and I’m not settled on how to judge potential future states and sum the collective happinesses of the stakeholders.