Oh, I didn’t realize you had kids. Should have figured it out, given your religious background.
Might I suggest you work on your tact in human interactions?
Re. a split simply in the proximity sense, that did occur to me/us during a particularly low point—mostly from my wife in order to help me figure out what I want. I think if I were in a lower emotional state, I’d consider that option more.
If you should have figured it out, and didn’t, did learning so give you a dose of hindsight bias? I suspect that only after learning I had kids did it seem like a dead obvious fact that this was because I had a religious background. Now that you’ve found out, you will insist that I need to accept that the generalization was deserved.
Even if the two can be correlated (and that only even works with certain religious groups), I’m more commenting on the use of generalizations/stereotypes in general. Even if they’re correct, it doesn’t seem to add anything to point out someone meets it.
For example, what if I told you the timing of my children had nothing to do with my religious beliefs?
Lastly, pick a demographic typically associated with drug use. Should someone confide in you that they did drugs, would your next comment be, “Oh, I didn’t realize you did drugs. Should have figured it out, given your age/race/sex/etc. combination?”
Thank you for the explanation. I regret that you found my off-hand comment annoying/offensive. I guess I will refrain from commenting on your posts, as I see no way to avoid this reaction in the future.
EDIT: weird, a note of disengagement provokes a quiet negative reaction. I must be missing something.
This also seems like an odd, blanket generalization. We’ve had one set of interactions on one post… ever. How do you know what will happen in all my posts?
I was simply surprised that you’d think you obviously should have realized I had kids given that I was religious. And so I said something.
Might I suggest you work on your tact in human interactions?
Re. a split simply in the proximity sense, that did occur to me/us during a particularly low point—mostly from my wife in order to help me figure out what I want. I think if I were in a lower emotional state, I’d consider that option more.
Feel free to spell it out for me how the inference that religious background ⇒ kids soon after marriage is offensive.
If you should have figured it out, and didn’t, did learning so give you a dose of hindsight bias? I suspect that only after learning I had kids did it seem like a dead obvious fact that this was because I had a religious background. Now that you’ve found out, you will insist that I need to accept that the generalization was deserved.
Even if the two can be correlated (and that only even works with certain religious groups), I’m more commenting on the use of generalizations/stereotypes in general. Even if they’re correct, it doesn’t seem to add anything to point out someone meets it.
For example, what if I told you the timing of my children had nothing to do with my religious beliefs?
Lastly, pick a demographic typically associated with drug use. Should someone confide in you that they did drugs, would your next comment be, “Oh, I didn’t realize you did drugs. Should have figured it out, given your age/race/sex/etc. combination?”
Thank you for the explanation. I regret that you found my off-hand comment annoying/offensive. I guess I will refrain from commenting on your posts, as I see no way to avoid this reaction in the future.
EDIT: weird, a note of disengagement provokes a quiet negative reaction. I must be missing something.
This also seems like an odd, blanket generalization. We’ve had one set of interactions on one post… ever. How do you know what will happen in all my posts?
I was simply surprised that you’d think you obviously should have realized I had kids given that I was religious. And so I said something.