I’m not sure if you’re misunderstanding or if you’re seeking extreme cases and trying to apply more generally. There are certainly some cases where a formal law or expert advice is clear and clearly applicable to your situation. There are FAR MORE cases where law needs interpretation (formally by judges and lawyers, but also informally by citizens in terms of whether to follow or enforce the letter of some laws).
Can you both treat someone seriously and disregard their wording?
Not only can, but must. It’s not a complete disregard of their wording, but a recognition that the wording is less complex than reality, and therefore is incomplete. It’s (sometimes; let’s ignore value signaling and pure hypocrisy for now) strong evidence of the shape of someone’s preferences, but it’s ONLY that—evidence for you to update on.
For many cases, you can talk to them about it, and use more words to get more information about limits, exceptions, and contextual situations that modify the statements. That’s great. For many cases, you can’t, and need to rely on other clues to modify your interpretation of the over-simple words.
That conclusion seems pretty horrifying.
Goodness, this is just a hint of the horrors found in an evolved competitive socially intelligent species.
I lived in a bad neighborhood in DC in the 1990s but went to school in a safer neighborhood and then into a school in the suburbs.
The block I lived on rarely had grass because of the mess of broken alcohol bottles, needles, and dime bags (and very occasionally a shell casing). Several of my neighbors argued sincerely that Malcom X was a race traitor whose murder was justifiable. While most of what I witnessed were scuffles, there was mention of serious crimes and of strong aversion to talking to the police. That was not a universal attitude but it was enough that several adults there seemed frustrated at their neighbors. Having seen a Dutch woman drive through the block, I saw her check the car doors were locked.
If people were actually in favor of Malcom X’s murder or the murder of the families of the Hanfi Muslims, then why would disrespecting them be safe? Maybe the kids saying that were ignorant (which is hard to believe) or the adults saying it were just trying to look good to others but it at least suggests a willingness to reward violence against opponents and the crime behavior in the area suggested impulsivity.
Talking to the American teachers in school seemed to get very negative reactions and accusations I was just watching too much television (I did not have a TV and my father’s radio did not always work). I recognize my father was probably mentally ill but his reserve colleagues seemed happy to discuss the use of violence in securing an area with caveats or to discuss evidence. It is as if there was a huge but quietly denied gap in how details were handled between the reservists, bank officials, and lawyers and the teachers. Insofar as teachers got very angry when trying to add caveats, it seemed they were sticking with the initial wording.
I specifically asked “Is tolerance more important than human life” when in 1st grade and didn’t get a clear answer but remembered the reactions as angry. How can anyone prioritize under such a refusal to specify?
Once going to undergrad, I saw similar behavior in getting angrier the more precise the wording was with several of my fellow undergrads but not all of them.
I am trying to figure out if “Tolerance” culture is different from “stop snitching” culture but they just look similar because of the resort to hyperbole. I need to know if there is a functional or even a theoretical difference between “always be tolerant” and “snitches get stitches”. When i tried pushing on the issue, I often got uncomfortable looks, not answers.
When I try to infer people’s priorities from their statements, I note that, of the people who speak, they tend to very negative to police action when discussing an incident in the news and articulate as obvious facts discerned after the incident. A smaller subset seems to be insistent that police conduct has to be judged based on information available at the time, not after the time. From that, it seems like the real test is if one bulk of people are happy with the result, not the actual conduct but lie as if the result is done by people with perfect knowledge. While assuming perfect knowledge may be a fallacy, is it realistic that people would engage in it in a calm environment?
Sure, I can speculate that “they really mean X” but have such an fantastically leaky memory or imprecise wording that conversation is impossible but they don’t seem to be treated that way. I think it is more likely that there is some unspoken assumption I don’t get (which I assume is some notion of “normality” that is being modified with hyperbolic wording) or sincere approval of what went on.
If the idea that people are trying to signal modifications to some hypothetical “normal” state and are using hyperbole to that end, how can someone without that idea of “normality” operate based on such instructions?
I’m not sure if you’re misunderstanding or if you’re seeking extreme cases and trying to apply more generally. There are certainly some cases where a formal law or expert advice is clear and clearly applicable to your situation. There are FAR MORE cases where law needs interpretation (formally by judges and lawyers, but also informally by citizens in terms of whether to follow or enforce the letter of some laws).
Not only can, but must. It’s not a complete disregard of their wording, but a recognition that the wording is less complex than reality, and therefore is incomplete. It’s (sometimes; let’s ignore value signaling and pure hypocrisy for now) strong evidence of the shape of someone’s preferences, but it’s ONLY that—evidence for you to update on.
For many cases, you can talk to them about it, and use more words to get more information about limits, exceptions, and contextual situations that modify the statements. That’s great. For many cases, you can’t, and need to rely on other clues to modify your interpretation of the over-simple words.
Goodness, this is just a hint of the horrors found in an evolved competitive socially intelligent species.
I lived in a bad neighborhood in DC in the 1990s but went to school in a safer neighborhood and then into a school in the suburbs.
The block I lived on rarely had grass because of the mess of broken alcohol bottles, needles, and dime bags (and very occasionally a shell casing). Several of my neighbors argued sincerely that Malcom X was a race traitor whose murder was justifiable. While most of what I witnessed were scuffles, there was mention of serious crimes and of strong aversion to talking to the police. That was not a universal attitude but it was enough that several adults there seemed frustrated at their neighbors. Having seen a Dutch woman drive through the block, I saw her check the car doors were locked.
If people were actually in favor of Malcom X’s murder or the murder of the families of the Hanfi Muslims, then why would disrespecting them be safe? Maybe the kids saying that were ignorant (which is hard to believe) or the adults saying it were just trying to look good to others but it at least suggests a willingness to reward violence against opponents and the crime behavior in the area suggested impulsivity.
Talking to the American teachers in school seemed to get very negative reactions and accusations I was just watching too much television (I did not have a TV and my father’s radio did not always work). I recognize my father was probably mentally ill but his reserve colleagues seemed happy to discuss the use of violence in securing an area with caveats or to discuss evidence. It is as if there was a huge but quietly denied gap in how details were handled between the reservists, bank officials, and lawyers and the teachers. Insofar as teachers got very angry when trying to add caveats, it seemed they were sticking with the initial wording.
I specifically asked “Is tolerance more important than human life” when in 1st grade and didn’t get a clear answer but remembered the reactions as angry. How can anyone prioritize under such a refusal to specify?
Once going to undergrad, I saw similar behavior in getting angrier the more precise the wording was with several of my fellow undergrads but not all of them.
I am trying to figure out if “Tolerance” culture is different from “stop snitching” culture but they just look similar because of the resort to hyperbole. I need to know if there is a functional or even a theoretical difference between “always be tolerant” and “snitches get stitches”. When i tried pushing on the issue, I often got uncomfortable looks, not answers.
When I try to infer people’s priorities from their statements, I note that, of the people who speak, they tend to very negative to police action when discussing an incident in the news and articulate as obvious facts discerned after the incident. A smaller subset seems to be insistent that police conduct has to be judged based on information available at the time, not after the time. From that, it seems like the real test is if one bulk of people are happy with the result, not the actual conduct but lie as if the result is done by people with perfect knowledge. While assuming perfect knowledge may be a fallacy, is it realistic that people would engage in it in a calm environment?
Sure, I can speculate that “they really mean X” but have such an fantastically leaky memory or imprecise wording that conversation is impossible but they don’t seem to be treated that way. I think it is more likely that there is some unspoken assumption I don’t get (which I assume is some notion of “normality” that is being modified with hyperbolic wording) or sincere approval of what went on.
If the idea that people are trying to signal modifications to some hypothetical “normal” state and are using hyperbole to that end, how can someone without that idea of “normality” operate based on such instructions?