I don’t take anyone’s protestations seriously when they claim they won’t be hurt/offended by anything that might be said to them.
Everyone is hurtable. EVERYONE.
I do think people can sometimes give accurate information about what is more and less likely to hurt their feelings. And they can credibly promise not to retaliate in certain ways. But literally everyone who has told me that they were generally unhurtable was mistaken.
I don’t take anyone’s protestations seriously when they claim they won’t be hurt/offended by anything that might be said to them.
Everyone is hurtable. EVERYONE.
I do think people can sometimes give accurate information about what is more and less likely to hurt their feelings. And they can credibly promise not to retaliate in certain ways. But literally everyone who has told me that they were generally unhurtable was mistaken.