The “lot of money” is biologically unnecessary unless you are in third world, the healthier living is splitting hairs as far as reproduction is concerned. The ‘there is a room for improving social skills as an adult’ issue is circa when-we-stopped-having-big-families (and stopped getting experience as children), i.e. very novel. Our current notion of ‘social skills’ revolves around being able to smoothly talk with strangers, which was entirely unnecessary (living in small tribes) until very very recently. What was important in small tribes, is being nice and avoiding escalating confrontations, perhaps by not talking at all when you’re not sure if it makes the other person mad. Not banging other people’s wives, either. Picture evolving as a member of crew of spaceship (tribe in frozen land), with crew of 20 where anyone initiates first contacts as a little child, and where you have to stick together for generations. Here you go, shyness.
The lack of any effort to reproduce is more interesting though. We just lack that particular goal. Sex, a bit of a goal, reproduction, not at all.
A bunch of people say they want to be parents and go to great lengths to do so. That might be cultural—any culture where people don’t dies by contraception.
Well, yea. Passed-down culture can substitute for the instincts quite well (provided that it is taken up without questioning)
Passed-laterally culture is different, everyone is trying to talk anyone who’s not a direct descendant into non-reproducing, for quite good reasons too.
I wouldn’t want to live in the biologically sensible world, though—in which an animal as intelligent as human would perhaps have their drive to reproduce (not to be confused with sex drive) be as strong as fear of death, with the obvious outcome—extreme overpopulation followed by the population crash.
The “lot of money” is biologically unnecessary unless you are in third world, the healthier living is splitting hairs as far as reproduction is concerned. The ‘there is a room for improving social skills as an adult’ issue is circa when-we-stopped-having-big-families (and stopped getting experience as children), i.e. very novel. Our current notion of ‘social skills’ revolves around being able to smoothly talk with strangers, which was entirely unnecessary (living in small tribes) until very very recently. What was important in small tribes, is being nice and avoiding escalating confrontations, perhaps by not talking at all when you’re not sure if it makes the other person mad. Not banging other people’s wives, either. Picture evolving as a member of crew of spaceship (tribe in frozen land), with crew of 20 where anyone initiates first contacts as a little child, and where you have to stick together for generations. Here you go, shyness.
The lack of any effort to reproduce is more interesting though. We just lack that particular goal. Sex, a bit of a goal, reproduction, not at all.
A bunch of people say they want to be parents and go to great lengths to do so. That might be cultural—any culture where people don’t dies by contraception.
Well, yea. Passed-down culture can substitute for the instincts quite well (provided that it is taken up without questioning)
Passed-laterally culture is different, everyone is trying to talk anyone who’s not a direct descendant into non-reproducing, for quite good reasons too.
I wouldn’t want to live in the biologically sensible world, though—in which an animal as intelligent as human would perhaps have their drive to reproduce (not to be confused with sex drive) be as strong as fear of death, with the obvious outcome—extreme overpopulation followed by the population crash.