Then there’s the problem that confidence is key. You need to be 110% confident of everything you say, and to truly believe this, you need to internalise it.
The average 16 year old doesn’t have high self confidence. That doesn’t mean that he won’t get laid.
It does. When I try to remember my high school class, finding a girlfriend was by far the hardest problem most boys faced. About 75% suffered from this problem. Getting into a university or not flunking the coming test on the natural logarithm or whatever other challenges we faced, they were easier.
It is sort of hard to tell exactly why. Lack of confidence was surely part of the story, but on a more broader sense, relationships are something adults have and we were stuck in half-childhood.
The guys who managed to find a GF looked and acted like young adults already at 16. Part of it is biological—some of them were already shaving daily even though they weren’t even 18. Puberty ran its full course on them, testosterone working fully. But even the guys who didn’t, and yet were able to find girlfriends, they had this adult demeanor already. For example and uncle could ask them to help in repairing a car and they would approach it like an adult, cautiously, competently and efficiently. Now the guys who were unable to find a GF approached it like a child. Mamaaaah I don’t want this I want to go back to playing videogames, well I guess if I have to do it I will half-ass the tools with one hand and play on the Nintendo with the other, maybe they’ll let me go then, that kind of attitude.
Growing up is seriously hard when people lack the kind of challenges that would make them, and this is why it is extremely hard for many young men to get laid.
Mamaaaah I don’t want this I want to go back to playing videogames
The person who spends their time playing video games instead of going to parties where people get drunk is less likely to be hookup even if he’s confident.
The average 16 year old doesn’t have high self confidence. That doesn’t mean that he won’t get laid.
It does. When I try to remember my high school class, finding a girlfriend was by far the hardest problem most boys faced. About 75% suffered from this problem. Getting into a university or not flunking the coming test on the natural logarithm or whatever other challenges we faced, they were easier.
It is sort of hard to tell exactly why. Lack of confidence was surely part of the story, but on a more broader sense, relationships are something adults have and we were stuck in half-childhood.
The guys who managed to find a GF looked and acted like young adults already at 16. Part of it is biological—some of them were already shaving daily even though they weren’t even 18. Puberty ran its full course on them, testosterone working fully. But even the guys who didn’t, and yet were able to find girlfriends, they had this adult demeanor already. For example and uncle could ask them to help in repairing a car and they would approach it like an adult, cautiously, competently and efficiently. Now the guys who were unable to find a GF approached it like a child. Mamaaaah I don’t want this I want to go back to playing videogames, well I guess if I have to do it I will half-ass the tools with one hand and play on the Nintendo with the other, maybe they’ll let me go then, that kind of attitude.
Growing up is seriously hard when people lack the kind of challenges that would make them, and this is why it is extremely hard for many young men to get laid.
The person who spends their time playing video games instead of going to parties where people get drunk is less likely to be hookup even if he’s confident.