only females are encouraged to consider rape as a devastating or life-wrecking occurrence.
Wait… what?
I may not be tracking, here. Are you suggesting that as a class, men who are raped aren’t as emotionally affected as women who are raped? Or that if they are, it’s for some reason other than social encouragement? Something else?
I was suggesting that men don’t have the constant bombardment of “if you got raped, you should feel bad”. There is some of that, but not as much and somewhat balanced by other parts of male culture like being looked down on for being emotionally affected by things: “man up and move on” and such.
On second thought, I don’t know why I even wrote that, and it detracts form the rest, so I’ll remove it.
Hang on a minute. This a prime hypothesis testing space! If you really think that anti-rape messaging makes post-rape experience worse, it surely follows that it must be worse for women than for men, this messaging being mostly aimed at women. So you can quite conveniently check your theory by comparing the incidence of ptsd, depression, etc in male and female rape survivors.
No need to keep this as a controversial suspicion or instinct, you’d be armed with real knowledge! Knowledge you can report back to us, and anyone else you may have discussed this issue with. Indeed I think you could cultivate a useful reputation for open mindedness and rationality if you went back to any place you’d seen this attitude expressed before, and shared your findings -positive or negative- with them.
Hang on a minute. This a prime hypothesis testing space! If you really think that anti-rape messaging makes post-rape experience worse, it surely follows that it must be worse for women than for men, this messaging being mostly aimed at women. So you can quite conveniently check your theory by comparing the incidence of ptsd, depression, etc in male and female rape survivors.
Not necessarily. If male rape is not acknowledged at all, it can be much harder to talk about it and heal.
Well, right, I understood that much. But you seemed to be arguing that such bombardment is causal to women feeling bad about being raped… that is, if it weren’t for that bombardment, they wouldn’t feel bad. So it seems to follow that you would expect men not to feel bad about being raped, since they don’t receive that bombardment.
That’s what confused me… your whole argument seems to hang together only if I assume that men in fact don’t feel bad when they’ve been raped (which sure isn’t my experience, not that I’m any sort of expert) so I was trying to confirm whether you were in fact assuming that.
such bombardment is causal to women feeling bad about being raped
Only partially. Obviously bad shit makes you feel bad, whether or not you have memes about it, but the hypothesis is that bad shit plus being encouraged to feel bad about it makes it worse.
So it seems to follow that you would expect men not to feel bad about being raped, since they don’t receive that bombardment.
men don’t recieve as much “you should feel bad and let it define your life” but as another user pointed out, it is also not socially acceptable to have been raped, so there is no chance to talk about it and heal.
your whole argument seems to hang together only if I assume that men in fact don’t feel bad when they’ve been raped (which sure isn’t my experience, not that I’m any sort of expert) so I was trying to confirm whether you were in fact assuming that.
Well I didn’t intend that particular assumption, or at least I don’t anymore. A better comparison to investigate would be how people react to being beaten or robbed.
Wait… what?
I may not be tracking, here. Are you suggesting that as a class, men who are raped aren’t as emotionally affected as women who are raped? Or that if they are, it’s for some reason other than social encouragement? Something else?
I was suggesting that men don’t have the constant bombardment of “if you got raped, you should feel bad”. There is some of that, but not as much and somewhat balanced by other parts of male culture like being looked down on for being emotionally affected by things: “man up and move on” and such.
On second thought, I don’t know why I even wrote that, and it detracts form the rest, so I’ll remove it.
Hang on a minute. This a prime hypothesis testing space! If you really think that anti-rape messaging makes post-rape experience worse, it surely follows that it must be worse for women than for men, this messaging being mostly aimed at women. So you can quite conveniently check your theory by comparing the incidence of ptsd, depression, etc in male and female rape survivors.
No need to keep this as a controversial suspicion or instinct, you’d be armed with real knowledge! Knowledge you can report back to us, and anyone else you may have discussed this issue with. Indeed I think you could cultivate a useful reputation for open mindedness and rationality if you went back to any place you’d seen this attitude expressed before, and shared your findings -positive or negative- with them.
There are a lot of confounding factors hereabouts.
Yea, and doing a proper double blind test would pretty much be the least likely thing ever to pass any ethics committee.
Not necessarily. If male rape is not acknowledged at all, it can be much harder to talk about it and heal.
Well, yes, that”s the point. To figure out whether this comes out positive or negative.
Well, right, I understood that much. But you seemed to be arguing that such bombardment is causal to women feeling bad about being raped… that is, if it weren’t for that bombardment, they wouldn’t feel bad. So it seems to follow that you would expect men not to feel bad about being raped, since they don’t receive that bombardment.
That’s what confused me… your whole argument seems to hang together only if I assume that men in fact don’t feel bad when they’ve been raped (which sure isn’t my experience, not that I’m any sort of expert) so I was trying to confirm whether you were in fact assuming that.
Only partially. Obviously bad shit makes you feel bad, whether or not you have memes about it, but the hypothesis is that bad shit plus being encouraged to feel bad about it makes it worse.
men don’t recieve as much “you should feel bad and let it define your life” but as another user pointed out, it is also not socially acceptable to have been raped, so there is no chance to talk about it and heal.
Well I didn’t intend that particular assumption, or at least I don’t anymore. A better comparison to investigate would be how people react to being beaten or robbed.