This seems very reasonable to me. This post and the whole conversation has been an eye opener for me, because I never realized that other people had porous boundaries—mine are rock solid and super strict. For instance I would never have independently come up with the idea of “exploration space”—for me, in all of my relationships, there is exactly none. No guessing. Only asking. It would not have occurred to me that there are people—indeed, apparently the majority of people—for whom this is not the case! It’s rather mind-boggling. But then, I’ve never understood human intimacy and always been extremely ambivalent about it, so it makes sense that I wouldn’t have picked up on things like this—I’ve never experienced any kind of interpersonal intimacy at all and tend to actively avoid it.
This seems very reasonable to me. This post and the whole conversation has been an eye opener for me, because I never realized that other people had porous boundaries—mine are rock solid and super strict. For instance I would never have independently come up with the idea of “exploration space”—for me, in all of my relationships, there is exactly none. No guessing. Only asking. It would not have occurred to me that there are people—indeed, apparently the majority of people—for whom this is not the case! It’s rather mind-boggling. But then, I’ve never understood human intimacy and always been extremely ambivalent about it, so it makes sense that I wouldn’t have picked up on things like this—I’ve never experienced any kind of interpersonal intimacy at all and tend to actively avoid it.