It is not the case that my opinion of people lowers when they say no to me (in many cases I can notice it unambiguously rising).
It is also not the case that the people around me consistently lower their opinion of others (including myself) when those others say no.
But I can’t speak to your experience, and whether you’re correctly perceiving a different thing happening to/around you, or whether you’re misperceiving something. I default to trusting that the thing you report is, in fact, happening, and it’s just … different, from what happens to/around me.
It is not the case that my opinion of people lowers when they say no to me (in many cases I can notice it unambiguously rising).
It is also not the case that the people around me consistently lower their opinion of others (including myself) when those others say no.
But I can’t speak to your experience, and whether you’re correctly perceiving a different thing happening to/around you, or whether you’re misperceiving something. I default to trusting that the thing you report is, in fact, happening, and it’s just … different, from what happens to/around me.