Hrm. I’m very prone to this error. I tend to make my least palate traits known up front, to eliminate possible incompatibilities later, but then tend towards irrelevancies as friendships develop.
(Flip side—it’s difficult for me to remember which “high information” conversations I’ve already had. I tend to repeat the highest-information ones as relationships develop, which results in “We’ve had this conversation before” conversations, which results in my being reluctant to introduce other high information conversations out of fear that I’ve already had it and am just repeating it.)
Hrm. I’m very prone to this error. I tend to make my least palate traits known up front, to eliminate possible incompatibilities later, but then tend towards irrelevancies as friendships develop.
(Flip side—it’s difficult for me to remember which “high information” conversations I’ve already had. I tend to repeat the highest-information ones as relationships develop, which results in “We’ve had this conversation before” conversations, which results in my being reluctant to introduce other high information conversations out of fear that I’ve already had it and am just repeating it.)