Go after polyamory all you want—if there is data about problems that are statistically likely to show up, I’d like to know about that, so that I can try minimizing the odds that we will experience them—and we do experience some of the standard poly jealousy problems—but if you are going to shoot a sacred cow, bring a high powered rifle, not a squirt gun.
I’ll fully admit that I don’t have formal statistical data, but I think the point is worth making anyway as a potential warning. My intent is mostly to warn newcomers about patterns I’ve seen rather than to shame people already in the community; I certainly do not claim that every poly relationship is abusive or the like.
(Part of the reason I posted this in shortform rather than as a top-level post is because I was hoping to just send a quick warning rather than posting something more formal and detailed!)
I’ll fully admit that I don’t have formal statistical data, but I think the point is worth making anyway as a potential warning. My intent is mostly to warn newcomers about patterns I’ve seen rather than to shame people already in the community; I certainly do not claim that every poly relationship is abusive or the like.
(Part of the reason I posted this in shortform rather than as a top-level post is because I was hoping to just send a quick warning rather than posting something more formal and detailed!)