force everyone to “talk like women”. (Do you realise just how disparaging that sounds, incidentally? Because women are obviously just a homogenous bunch who all talk in exactly the same way.)
I actually didn’t think that was the controversial part of my statement. There is a well documented difference in the level of sensory experience women tend to convey through their communication, and it is a difference that I would suggest is more disparaging to males!
It did seem significant to me that “The touch of another person’s skin will still be wonderfully sensuous” was presented as an equivalent substitution to “the allure of a woman”. While both are valid they are definitely conveying a different experience and are a whole different form of communication. I do support additions such as “or the appeal of ”, to make the statement balanced. I can not agree that replacing lustful allure should be replaced with the appeal of intimate touch. Those are different experiences and the former is more likely to be used publicly by males than by females prior to any social sanctions on the use.
Surely there’s some middle ground here where no one feels excluded?
I actually didn’t think that was the controversial part of my statement. There is a well documented difference in the level of sensory experience women tend to convey through their communication, and it is a difference that I would suggest is more disparaging to males!
It did seem significant to me that “The touch of another person’s skin will still be wonderfully sensuous” was presented as an equivalent substitution to “the allure of a woman”. While both are valid they are definitely conveying a different experience and are a whole different form of communication. I do support additions such as “or the appeal of ”, to make the statement balanced. I can not agree that replacing lustful allure should be replaced with the appeal of intimate touch. Those are different experiences and the former is more likely to be used publicly by males than by females prior to any social sanctions on the use.
Absolutely